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It’s real simple.

We exist in a world that moves so fast we lose (or momentarily forget) our humanity. Or maybe we don’t forget our own humanity, but we forget the humanity of the person on the other side of the screen.

Today, will you remember? Try it.

Then tomorrow and every tomorrow after that, will you remember too?

It could change everything…

Powerful message from Derek Sivers, author of Anything You Want.

When we yell at our car or coffee machine, it’s fine because they’re just mechanical appliances.

So when we yell at a website or company, using our computer or phone appliance, we forget it’s not an appliance, but a person that’s affected.

It’s dehumanizing to have thousands of people passing through our computer screens, so we do things we’d never do if they were sitting next to us.

It’s too overwhelming to remember that at the end of every computer is a real person, a lot like you, whose birthday was last week, who has three best friends but nobody to spoon at night, and is personally affected by what you say.

Even if you remember it right now, will you remember it next time you’re overwhelmed, or perhaps never forget it again?

Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live. - Dorothy Thompson

I recently read Derek Sivers (founder of CD Baby) book, Anything You Want 5 Reasons You Must Pursue Whatever Scares You and was taken with the way he pursued what interested him, stayed true to his interests and lived life as an adventure. He wrote an article titled, “Whatever scares you or excites you, go do it.”

There are so many variations on this theme in inspiring quotes and personal sayings, but I liked his simple philosophy.

Derek Sivers’ two basic rules in decision making:

  • whatever excites you, go do it
  • whatever scares you, go do it

Every time you’re making a choice, one choice is the safe/comfortable choice and one is the risky/uncomfortable choice. The risky/uncomfortable choice is the one that will teach you the most and make you grow the most, so that’s the one you should choose. So if traveling Europe as a vagabond for a year is what seems more scary and exciting, do that!

5 Reasons to Pursue Whatever Scares You

  1. Security is an illusion. We often make what we think is the safe or comfortable decision, without realizing that it’s all an illusion and could change in a heartbeat. When someone finds out they only have a year to live, their illusion of security disappears and they make radical choices. Why not make those choices before you get the news?
  2. Fear is not always helpful. Most people have fears of loss: home, people, possessions, memories. Those fears can paralyze and limit healthy decision making. Think about your most frequent or biggest fear and take it to the extreme… what’s the worst that could happen?
  3. Change is not all bad. When you are the one making the change and the choice, it’s infinitely easier than when it’s forced on you. Choose your changes beforehand and you’ll have the benefit of a clear mind and head to plan and prepare.
  4. Stuff is not important. Filling up a home with stuff we like or even enjoy is fun, but it’s not the point of life. It’s an accessory. As much as possible, holding lightly to things and tightly to people is critical to having the strength to pursue what scares you.
  5. You are stronger than you think. We underestimate our ability to adapt and our courage in the face of fear. Comfort does that to you. Get uncomfortable this year and start to build your ability to tackle your fears. You’ll surprise yourself.

What would you add to the list?

What reasons would you give for why we must pursue what scares us? Or excites us? As this long year comes to a close, I can tell you that we have latched on to this philosophy and are making some radical changes in the near future.
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