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Plan B: What To Do When Your Dreams Are Shattered

Tasra Dawson —  January 7, 2011 — 6 Comments

That’s a tall order. Finding the answer for what to do when life doesn’t turn out the way you want. Who wants to turn to Plan B? For some of us, Plan B isn’t even an option (like for Meryl Streep in Devil Wears Prada).

For most of us “regular” folk though, we often have to come up with Plan B, C and even D sometimes. I know my Plan A that I wrote down in high school about when I would graduate, get married, have kids, etc. didn’t even come close to hitting the mark. Anyone else have that same experience? I guess it’s worse for those of us who like to plan (me) because we actually feel like we have a sense of control over the outcome of our lives. It’s really all an illusion, but sometimes we forget that.

planbbook Plan B: What To Do When Your Dreams Are Shattered I recently read Pete Wilson’s new book, Plan B Plan B: What To Do When Your Dreams Are Shattered, which got me thinking about these ideas. He wrote the book for people whose lives haven’t turned out the way they planned. For those people who feel confused, lost and hopeless because of that very fact. I was a little nervous about starting to read it though because I didn’t want a feel good, God is in control, pat me on the back kind of answer to the issue. I didn’t want condescending or trite answers. I wasn’t disappointed.

Pete Wilson really seems to have such a compassionate heart for people and wants to help them through the tough times in their life. So often we have to go through the fire to get to the other side. Pete wants to help people get through faster by fighting against the change less and asking the right questions to get to some real answers.

His ideas about making peace with doubt and moving past the feelings of crisis, panic, fear and paralysis are actually pretty practical. Working with the situation, instead of fighting and railing against it is something we know to do, but the way Pete represents it makes it seem doable.

This is one that’ll stay on my bookshelf as I know I’ll be picking it up again to learn more about embracing Plan B Plan B: What To Do When Your Dreams Are Shattered.

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  • http://www.facebook.com/kasesq94 Kathleen Scanlon-Desio

    Wow…I believe I need to read that book. Life has definitely thrown us a curve ball and while trying to be accepting of change, it certainly isn’t easy. It is easy to give up and wallow.

    • http://tasramar.com tasra

      Hope you’re doing okay now Kathleen. Those curve balls are hard to catch,
      but I’m sure you can weather the storm. :)

  • Marla

    I am a 11 year old girl. I’ve always wanted to be in a beauty pageant, but my mom thinks they are silly and are pedophile paradise. I think I’m too ugly and short to be in one D:

    • http://teenidentity.com Tasra

      Hi Marla! Thanks for your comment and honesty. I know it’s so hard when moms and daughters disagree on issues. I have a teen daughter so I know! One thing you might want to do is think about why you want to be in a beauty pageant… what is it about it that you think you might get, how might you feel, what might happen positively. Then once you’re clear about why you want to do it, get creative and think of some ways you could experience those same things through another route that your mom does approve of. For instance, some of our girls (http://teenidentity.com) are part of our “model” team, but they are in a safe place where they get to experience photo shoots and feeling beautiful. Just an off the wall thought!

      As for the “too ugly and short,” I’m just going to say… “Stop being so mean to yourself!” You’d probably not be friends with someone who said that to you all the time, so why do you let yourself say that? I know it’s common for all of us to think so negatively but it is possible to change those voices in your head. Don’t listen to the lies the media tells you about the “perfect” size or shape… I’ll bet you have more creativity, talent, and beauty in your little pinky than you even realize. Start developing that and forget about society’s definition of beauty. I promise you’ll feel more beautiful than you ever have before!!!

      • Marla

        Thanks! That made me feel SO much better! I think if I can find a pageant, I’ll give it a try(if my mom approves.) I bet it would be fun being in a pageant.  My friend even got a request, but her mom didnt care for pageants either,so she threw it away. I have a friend who experienced that same problem as me( she just told me this today) Their are no pageants in my state,Arkansas. But I bet I can find one somewhere else.

         
        Oh and I almost forgot! I only like the glitz pageant(natural is not really my thing) But thanks for the wonderful advice!

  • Vizition

    Im a succesful dj, and i have started to produce, and that is my dream way of living. Meanwhile, i would have taken an officer-education in the army. Both of my biggest dream just got shattered yesterday because i have bad ears. It took the doctor 3 seconds to find out that my whole life i expected to have, can’t be fulfilled. What the….